Everyday Sexism.

I feel like there’s no need for me to explain this title. It pretty much explains itself.

So recently i read “Everyday sexism” by Laura bates.

And i got soo impressed by how she gave voice to thousands of Women out there. I decided to read more works from her.

And that’s when i came across “Girl Up” by Laura bates herself.

This book is totally an inspiration. I mean if i could have gotten this book during my teenage, My life would have been much easier.

So today i wanted to share some of the sexist incidents I or My friends have encountered.

Who knows Someone else get inspired too and share theirs. And then people might start acknowledging the fact that sexism exist and is quite normalized that we don’t even notice it anymore.

As i might have shared before I’m a Dental student, and during my fresher year. A Teacher (Female I should add. And a Doctor) asked to see Me and Two of my batchmates in her Cabin.

And Ofcourse we obliged (Who wouldn’t on their first day in that department).

As we asked why are we called She told us that We’re dressed inappropriately. What are we trying to do Seduce/Distract/Excite boys.

I was totally blown away from this comment because :-

A) I wasn’t wearing anything inappropriate. I was wearing a top with a 2-3 inch slit on my shoulders. That’s it. And I don’t know what kind of guys get excited or seduced by just seeing a girl’s shoulder. And even if that’s so distracting for them. They can always look away right. That’s always a good option.

B) My batchmates were wearing nothing inappropriate either. One of them had their Zipper visible. How dare she. RIght??

And C) That teacher is an Educated woman herself. She’s a Doctor and the Head of her Department for crying out loud.

I’m just soo blown away by the fact that girls from very young age have been going through this prejudice and they don’t even know that it’s wrong.

Even Women don’t support women as i told you a true story myself above. How can we expect Men to do it.

At the same time. People encourage this saying “Men will be Men”. As you might have seen in some sweet sweet advertisement. Oh really. I thought Men will become Chimpanzee, but thank you for this extraordinary knowledge.

Now time for second story. As every other sane 23 year old I’m on instagram. I mean who isn’t right.

You have to live in a cave to not be on instagram. (Don’t get mad at me if you’re not on Ig, I totally respect your decision)

You see what i did above?? I did a thing called Respecting someone else’s opinion and mind my own business. So yeah.. People need to learn that too. But we’ll talk about it some other time.

So yeah. I post on instagram story alot.. Like A-fucking-lot. So what. Big deal? Nah.

I’ve been following lots of pages about Feminism, I’m still learning about it and when i like some post i share it on my story so that people could learn from it too.

And then one day while i was minding my own business this guy, A senior said to me that my stories are too “Feministy”.

And that guy is a Doctor? So how do you feel about Educated people talking like this. I mean why do we treat “Feminism” “Feminists” as a curse word.?

I’ve seen girls in highschool denying they aren’t a feminist because they don’t want guys to think that they are prude or ball busters.

I mean being a feminist does not mean that you hate men. How many times do we have to tell this. It means we want Equality and Equal opportunities for women.

Now some ask counter question that why do i need feminism because I’ve been given equal opportunity for education and living a good life. And to those i want to reply that It’s not about me or any other fortunate girls. We need feminism for betterment of tomorrow so that not only us but the girls who are less fortunate than us can have the same opportunities as men.

Now talking about equality. We need to stop sexualizing and start normalizing female body. I mean yeah we have breasts.? So what. Can you please stop staring down and look at my face? Yeah. Thank you.!!

Body hair are normal. I didn’t say anything about the forest you’ve grown on your chest, Did i Raju? Then why are you so concerned with me having some hair on my arm. Get a life already.

Vagina is not a curse word. You came out of one for crying out loud. and it’s a part of our body , Just like you have a Penis so stop being a dick. (Yeah Pun Intended)

Periods are normal, not something for you to disgusted about. Say it with me now. “Menstruation is normal”. Repeat after me until it start feeling normal to you.

We’re surrounded by Everyday Sexism. But we’re still not ready to talk about it. We try to ignore it. Because talking about issues makes us uncomfortable. But

Acknowledgement is definitely the first step. So share your story. Who knows you might inspire someone else to share theirs. 😊

I feel like I’ve written all this in the influence of my Period harmones 😂.

But again say it with me. “Periods are normal”…. !!!

I’m a feminist and if that freaks you out then it’s your problem not mine. So Don’t waste your breath projecting your insecurities on me honey. Because i give fucks exactly the amount of shits i give about your opinion.

And that is “Zero” in case you’re wondering.

Soo.. Until next time 🌸

-XoXo💞✨